Touching Paras
He knew something was wrong. Or at least something had changed. It showed in the way Paras behaved. But he was not sure what could be done to correct the way things were going on
For some months now, whenever he returned to home, Paras ran towards him. Not that he never ran to him before, but now he felt Paras was doing so because he felt lonely. And he feared it would be terribly tough for a kid of four to feel lonely
Seema was always a bit more mod and advanced than him. Was it that had attracted him towards her? Anyways, this was not relevant now. What mattered now was the wellbeing of their 'family'. And he would do anything for his. Even now, it was time to act. But most difficult was to decide: where and how
On Sunday, they had gone to the waterfall after about two months. While they enjoyed every moment in and out of water, something happened on the returned journey. The engine of their car started getting overheated. At one point, he had to stop the car and they just waited. Suddenly, the kids spotted something and started shouting.
They had found a group of apes on the road side. He locked the doors immediately. They had to pass away some time anyway, so all of them started looking at the apes. They had come in plenty ' and they were everywhere. In the grass, on the trees, near the flowers and into the bush ' it was like an army of apes had invaded the area and were enjoying their booty. He noticed one particular ape, and asked all of them to look at it. He made sure that Paras and his mother both were at it
That ape was a mother ape, and she had a baby in her lap. She would play with the baby. Then she would keep it near her breast, some times feeding it with her milk. Some times she would make the baby sit near her, and would try to find something in its hairy skin. The baby would jump on her body and she would allow it to do so. Suddenly, the apes started shouting and all of them ran towards a particular direction ' may be there was a threat. A snake or some dangerous animal? The mother ape just ran away and the baby remained attached to her body. Mother would run and jump from one tree to another: those were giant leaps made in the moment of a threat. But the baby ape would never fell down As the group of apes disappeared, and he too started the car, he thought it was the right moment to talk to his wife
"No one can fill the blank space left by our mothers in our life. No one. Neither the grandmother, nor the daddy too." Seema listened as he spoke to her in a seemingly monk-like manner. "The greatest gift to us, when we are kids, is the precious time our parents give to us. When young, our life rotates around our parents. Paras needs our quality time too."
"Yes, and I do give " "I am not saying you are not giving him your time" he tried to stop Seema from giving justifications and ruining the point he was sending across. "But we have to think if we are filling all the voids in his little life to help him grow completely", he continued.
"Look at the apes. There is so much bonding between mother ape and the baby ape. And one very important aspect of their bonding is also 'physical'." He explained his point well.
"A child experiences everything around him by touching and feeling. And I believe even our parental love should have this aspect which should allow him to touch and feel our love."
"Don't take it otherwise but why do you ask Paras to sit on the chair, on the sofa, and here, on the seat, rather than on your lap? Why do you ask him to always eat from his own hands? I understand that you may be doing this to make him independent and help him grow up under proper discipline, but here, you are losing a very good opportunity to make a bond with him "
"Allow the baby to be near you. As near as the baby ape was to his mother. A baby needs physical care; it needs to be touched with warmth of our love, it also needs to be cared with our physical presence and guidance." "Let our clothes get dirty, let your makeup go destroyed, let us leave the comfort of having disciplined kids, but let us not let our baby grow up with a void within "
Addressed to all parents who play adult with the kids and tend to go 'away' from their kids in the name of disciplining them. Kids need to feel warmth of your heartbeats.
(Rahul)
For some months now, whenever he returned to home, Paras ran towards him. Not that he never ran to him before, but now he felt Paras was doing so because he felt lonely. And he feared it would be terribly tough for a kid of four to feel lonely
Seema was always a bit more mod and advanced than him. Was it that had attracted him towards her? Anyways, this was not relevant now. What mattered now was the wellbeing of their 'family'. And he would do anything for his. Even now, it was time to act. But most difficult was to decide: where and how
On Sunday, they had gone to the waterfall after about two months. While they enjoyed every moment in and out of water, something happened on the returned journey. The engine of their car started getting overheated. At one point, he had to stop the car and they just waited. Suddenly, the kids spotted something and started shouting.
They had found a group of apes on the road side. He locked the doors immediately. They had to pass away some time anyway, so all of them started looking at the apes. They had come in plenty ' and they were everywhere. In the grass, on the trees, near the flowers and into the bush ' it was like an army of apes had invaded the area and were enjoying their booty. He noticed one particular ape, and asked all of them to look at it. He made sure that Paras and his mother both were at it
That ape was a mother ape, and she had a baby in her lap. She would play with the baby. Then she would keep it near her breast, some times feeding it with her milk. Some times she would make the baby sit near her, and would try to find something in its hairy skin. The baby would jump on her body and she would allow it to do so. Suddenly, the apes started shouting and all of them ran towards a particular direction ' may be there was a threat. A snake or some dangerous animal? The mother ape just ran away and the baby remained attached to her body. Mother would run and jump from one tree to another: those were giant leaps made in the moment of a threat. But the baby ape would never fell down As the group of apes disappeared, and he too started the car, he thought it was the right moment to talk to his wife
"No one can fill the blank space left by our mothers in our life. No one. Neither the grandmother, nor the daddy too." Seema listened as he spoke to her in a seemingly monk-like manner. "The greatest gift to us, when we are kids, is the precious time our parents give to us. When young, our life rotates around our parents. Paras needs our quality time too."
"Yes, and I do give " "I am not saying you are not giving him your time" he tried to stop Seema from giving justifications and ruining the point he was sending across. "But we have to think if we are filling all the voids in his little life to help him grow completely", he continued.
"Look at the apes. There is so much bonding between mother ape and the baby ape. And one very important aspect of their bonding is also 'physical'." He explained his point well.
"A child experiences everything around him by touching and feeling. And I believe even our parental love should have this aspect which should allow him to touch and feel our love."
"Don't take it otherwise but why do you ask Paras to sit on the chair, on the sofa, and here, on the seat, rather than on your lap? Why do you ask him to always eat from his own hands? I understand that you may be doing this to make him independent and help him grow up under proper discipline, but here, you are losing a very good opportunity to make a bond with him "
"Allow the baby to be near you. As near as the baby ape was to his mother. A baby needs physical care; it needs to be touched with warmth of our love, it also needs to be cared with our physical presence and guidance." "Let our clothes get dirty, let your makeup go destroyed, let us leave the comfort of having disciplined kids, but let us not let our baby grow up with a void within "
Addressed to all parents who play adult with the kids and tend to go 'away' from their kids in the name of disciplining them. Kids need to feel warmth of your heartbeats.
(Rahul)
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